Many times we can follow our gut instinct to know when someone is being dishonest with us, but it can be harder to have clear evidence to present to them to force them to tell the truth. Fortunately there are three main strategies for providing hard evidence that someone has been lying to you. Using these three techniques is the perfect way to get someone convinced that you have them figured out and make them start fessing up.
Look To Body Language
Daily Mail identifies some of the top indications that someone is lying such as eye contact issues. Most people assume that breaking eye contact is a clear sign of a liar, but in fact lairs are aware of this notion and they will often work hard to try and maintain too much eye contact. Other clear indicators are touching the mouth and area around the eyes as well as lots fidgeting and feet shuffling. If these body language signs have entered into a conversation where you are suspicious that someone is lying to you, you may have enough to call them out. Asking them why they are acting so nervous and as if they are lying.
Ask Them To Tell Their Story Backwards
Liars will rehears their story in their head before telling it to you, but this doesn’t help them if you try to break up the chronology they’ve constructed. Asking someone to recount the events of a story in the reverse order is one of the best tools you have for how to tell when someone is lying to you. An honest accounting of an evening might be a bit difficult to tell in reverse, but if the memories are really there anyone should be able to do it. A liar will suddenly find that their whole story breaks down and they can’t correctly tell their story anymore.
Police and pre-employment screening programs have been using polygraph exams to get at the truth since the 1920s. Many claim that polygraph exams are more than 90 percent accurate, but generally what’s more important than the exam itself is the pressure of the exam approaching. Police will often ask for a suspect to take a polygraph as a way of pressuring them into confessing for fear of failing the exam (even if it can’t be used against them in court). With the emergence of private polygraph centers in major cities all across the world, there’s no reason you can’t do the same thing with a personal issue. If you believe someone is lying to you, ask them to submit to a lie detector test and see if their story starts to change.